In a heartbreaking story, a father who raised two autistic kids told how he was forced to go to the authorities and change his parenting plan when he realised how badly he was treating his children.
John Loughlin said he felt “like a murderer” after he was asked to change his children’s schooling plans in order to protect their rights.
Mr Loughlins two children, who were born with autism, were sent to a private school in Wellington when he moved to the city for work.
The school was a private one and was operated by a non-profit organisation, but Mr Lauglin said the decision was based on the children’s needs.
He said he had been told that “the only way to protect them was to make them the teachers”.
“When I told the kids they weren’t going to be the teachers, they went into a rage and started kicking the desk, pushing it into the wall,” he said.
They were in my head and I couldn’t understand what was going on.” “
It was really difficult.
They were in my head and I couldn’t understand what was going on.”
“I don’t know how I was going to do it.”
Mr Louglin said that despite the advice from his carers that he could continue with the arrangement, he decided that he had to make changes.
They said ‘we are going back to the classroom, we are going home’.” I said ‘I have to go home’.” The family had moved into an apartment and Mr Laghlin’s two autistic sons, who are now two, are in the same room as his wife. “
I said ‘they are going out and they will do their homework’.
“So the only thing I could do was to send them to the private school.” “
My kids have a very difficult time, they are in a very different environment from me,” he explained.
“So the only thing I could do was to send them to the private school.”
He said that after the teachers had left the children were allowed to go outside and play outside.
“It’s a very small space, there’s a small fence, I didn’t have any equipment with me, so they had to do everything themselves,” he added.
“There was no guidance, no one there to tell them what to do.”
It was just me and my kids.
It’s just like you have to keep your distance.
“But they did it and I am ashamed of it.””
The boys are now doing well, but it’s difficult to be on your own, you can’t have them in the house and I can’t be the one to keep them on their own.” “
But they did it and I am ashamed of it.”
The boys are now doing well, but it’s difficult to be on your own, you can’t have them in the house and I can’t be the one to keep them on their own.
“At the end of the day, what I am doing is what I have to do.” “
We want to get on with our children, we don’t want them to suffer any more, but we have to be responsible with them,” he told The Irish Post.
“At the end of the day, what I am doing is what I have to do.”
A Wellington man was forced into changing his childrens schooling plans when he found out that the school was run by a private organisation.
John Boughlins says that he was told that his children would be taught by the public school, but that he has been told to “work with” the school “to ensure that [their] education is protected”.
Mr Bouglins said he was also told to remove all the books and other possessions from his children, including the books they would be reading.
He added that he felt that “everything” was in place for the children to learn.
“This is the biggest thing that I am going through.” “
You don’t just go and make them do what they don-t want to do,” he lamented.
“This is the biggest thing that I am going through.”
He also raised concerns about the use of video cameras in the home.
“If you have a camera in the living room, there is nothing you can do about it.
It is the responsibility of the parents,” he warned.
“Your child will do anything you want them not to do and if you are the one who wants them to do that, you are going in to court, you will be in a court of law.”
Mr Kelleher said that his two children had attended the school and had been doing well.
But he said the school is a “specialist” and the